My name is Leah (not my real name). I am 46 years old and a survivor of Child Sexual Abuse. I was abused at the age of 8 until I was 10.
My family never knew too much about the abuse due to the fact that I was ashamed of it and being so young didn’t know that it was abuse. I just knew that something wasn’t right. I put it behind me and went through my teenage years and 20s I was using drugs and alcohol and being promiscuous a way now I know that I used to deal with the abuse. Never fully understanding why I did this. Just thought it was a way of life.
When I had my first child at the age of there was a trigger that bought it all back to me. I had a little counselling and realised that the depression and my behaviour was due to the fact I had been sexually abused. But being a new mother I put it behind me again as I found it too hard to deal with. I went on to have another child at the age of 35 but my marriage broke down and I became a single mum.
After that I started drinking and taking drugs and became involved in numerous abusive relationships. That led me to become involved with a church group with this came the next trigger. A paedophile was attended the church social barbeque that I attended with my children. When I discovered who he was I went on a downward spiral. I decided to enter into counselling again and attended for my allocated sessions which helped a bit. I was unable to keep going as I was unable to afford to pay myself so I stopped. I then became involved in a very volatile relationship and fell pregnant at the age of 44 to my partner. Unfortunately I lost the baby at 3 months and then the next week I lost my aunt who I was very close to. This was my last trigger and probably the worst. I had a nervous breakdown. I was suffering from panic attacks, anxiety and severe depression. This led me to go and see my doctor and be put on antidepressants and a Mental Health Plan.
I have been seeing my Counsellor for the last 18 months now. This is a very long process as I have been diagnosed with Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder that started when I was a child. This hasn’t always been on a regular basis as I am not able to afford it myself and can only go to the allocated visits. I still have bouts of depression and when I am not in counselling I return to binge drinking as a way to cope. I am still unable to work due to the fear of a relapse and not being able to care for my children.
Without this counsellor’s help and support I really don’t think I would be here. It is very hard to pull yourself out of depression unless you have full support of a trained professional.
My visits are now coming to an end and I have to spread them out to make them last. I try not to think about being unable to have her support whilst I am waiting to see if I am eligible for anymore visits.
It is a long road for me and I know that it could take a lifetime to have a fulfilling life. But I will get there because I am a survivor.
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